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Old Aug 31, 2016, 02:40 PM
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You are handling your challenge of bipolar illness in very constructive ways -- with a pdoc and a therapist.

It would be nice if you'd get some support from your parents, instead of being questioned as though you don't know what you are doing.

Do you think either parent will listen deeply to you and take whatever you share into consideration?

Think about the characters involved:

For instance, I know my mother would tell the world, each time she shared, she'd preface her sharing with, "Just between you and me..." She would do this with everyone she met up with, including her hairdresser. She would then blame everything on bipolar, lol! If I merely assert myself in a casual manner, it would become a "bipolar behavior." Very tiring. Not supportive.

With my in-laws, we know we can share sensitive info with "mom" and she will not discuss it with "dad," nor anyone else. We'd decide if "dad" should know and if we feel he can show sensitivity to the topic or not. If he's told, I am usually the one talking because he can be very difficult. I am one of the few in the family able to handle him if/when he gets out-of-hand. He can more easily emotionally devastate his blood children, silencing them. In short, we know how parents are most likely going to act.

It's important you "know" your parents and if you truly feel you can share with one or both.

Vertigo gave excellent advice. It's important you know what you want from them and that you clearly ask for what you want/need if/when you talk with them.

It's a tough one, Blue. You love your parents and could benefit from their understanding and support. (((( Blue ))))


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