Hey everyone, I'm new here and at a complete loss, I was with my fiance for 7 years, and back on 7/29 she decided that we needed to end the relationship, which came as a blow to me, I had no idea anything was wrong, she seemed like things were fine leading up to this, texting me how much she loved me and missed me while she was at work during the day, and how she couldn't wait for the day to be over so she could be home with me, then in a matter of a week she decides the relationship is over.

When I ask her why she was ending the relationship the only reason she could give me was she has changed in the 7 years we had been together, had lost herself, and didn't realize it but had grown away from me.... but in the entire 7 years never would communicate if there was any problems or anything, if I ever tried to talk to her about things she saw it as me trying to start a fight and would not talk about it. Her view was people in relationships should not have arguments or fights or disagreements and if they did, they should not be together....

I've told her I have been doing some things to work on myself to fix some things I know I need to fix, and the only thing she said was that was good, and that she was sure the was probably things she needed to work on about herself..not that she knew there was...

After we broke up and I moved out, I moved 900 miles away in with my folks, we have emailed back and forth some, and she has told me of course the whole I loved you and a piece of me always will, and talks about how shes still grieving, but moving forward..looking for happiness and positive things in life....but she does want to be friends, at some point but she can't right now because its to hard for her, there's been to much hurt, What hurt? She did the hurting to me, she made the choice, and decision, I no choices or options in the decision, other then leave its over.. no discussion. or try to work it out. she walked away from me.

It's just really all very confusing, and hurtful to me, I dont know if she is just closed up, and still has more feelings then she is willing to admit and it just hiding it.., if she doesn't feel a thing..what...

Thanks for reading and for the help.