KuriWinterSun,

Everyone has secrets they would like to keep hidden ... every single person. You are not alone in that regard. I'm sure this guy has stuff too. Only, some people hide it better than others.

Everyone has flaws and defects. People love to label others "Narcissist", "Borderline", bla bla bull. Labels don't mean a damn thing because human beings are way too complex to be encapsulated or defined by such labels. You are NOT your labels, neither is this guy.

You don't know a thing about him till you meet him face to face and spend some time with him. Cautiously, of course, but that applies to everyone. Why is this guy any different than any seemingly "normal" guy who could have an arsenal of guns under his bed ?

Another thing ... your future is not as certain as it seems (same for all of us) Don't worry about the military or bring it up ... let life unfold as it does, and you never know where it will take you.

The point is ... don't let premature skepticism and judgments stop you from enjoying a potential relationship. You can find a thousand things to worry about if you want to. Life is way too dynamic and mysterious for you to be worrying about "what if"s this early in this relationship.

Just focus on getting to know this guy. A person's past does not define him/her.

"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift."