Thank you so much for your response!

We've talked about marriage and I think we both wanted to see how well we would live together first beforehand. Kind of like a test run. At the time that we considered this move he had a full-time professional job that he loved. He was let go, however, due to the fact that he was condescending to coworkers.

After his stint in the IT world he sat around unemployed waiting for recruiters to call him. He then found a job that sounded like "fun" but he sat on his hands until I pretty much sat him down to write his cover letter. He got the job but apparently it's more of a fun summer job that kids in high school work temporarily, not a 36-year-old man. He's now taking out his retirement to survive. This is so not the man I know who was driven and passionate but also practical and level-headed. Is it possible that this is an early mid-life crisis?

I feel at a loss for words at how much he has changed. I've talked to him about it and he says a lot about what he plans to do, but not a whole lot of action happens. I know only I can make me wait, but I don't know how much time to give him before I just tell him I can't do this anymore.