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Originally Posted by ennui.
Thank you.  I'm just worried because I seem to be man repellent, though I've been told I have a pretty face.  Men have never complimented me or paid me attention/shown interest, so I can only assume the worst. My biggest fear is that even when I am a decent weight I'll have loose skin and thus still look like a grotesque monster. I would never be able to afford any kind of correctional surgeries, so whatever I get, I'm stuck with it... for life. 
I guess I could ask him to stop bringing it up, but... not really a way to do that without making myself feel like a *****. Like I said, he doesn't mean it the way my mind takes it to mean. He seems to like talking about it in a sort of bragging manner like he's proud. It's my mind that twists it into an insult. I can sort of just grin and bear it.  He doesn't visit really often anyway. |
Hi,
For life, you do not know. i am a working class disabled person from the Thirld World and yet I got an opportunity when I was 36. And I am not pretty at all. I got first a volunteer job in the US, then a plain job and I was there more than a decade. While I was in the US because of my job I could travel around the world. That's something. Nobody could predict that, but it happened. Of course, I searched for different opportunities and got lucky somehow. Now, I am not doing well, but, again, even with all the problems and low possibilities my life changed for good. It was not for ever, but when I was 36 I was stuck and then I got an opportunity. Sorry I know you did not ask for my opinion and I apologize for my words here but I understand your concerns however I think that we cannot say that you will be stuck with whatever (skin, whatever) forever