Couples counseling is actually a really great suggestion. Thank you Christina! I do worry he'll refuse because of finances on his part but I think it's absolutely worth mentioning either way.

It's so hard to see someone that you love go from highly motivated to working part-time hours and living off retirement. I love the idea of buying a house together and having kids at some point, but we certainly can't do that on just my salary alone and his minimum wage. Sometimes he finds it hard to even buy groceries.

When I'm not working I lead a pretty active lifestyle and so I'm usually at the gym or training in some capacity because I have career goals that lie outside what I'm currently doing and I want to get away from my desk job. But my depression has been so bad the last month or so that I'll take a break during the day to go to the gym but then I'll work really late hours if boyfriend isn't around because it's pay and at least it seems semi-productive. This usually means that I'm around most of the night to deal with the cat vomit and everything else that the cat wants to dish out while boyfriend is out all day and evening.

Some weeks we get absolutely no time together, other weeks we may get a night or two. Most of the time I feel like ships passing in the night.