Could you try to look for a therapist with an integrative approach? They are much less likely to be rigid because they draw from a variety of approaches rather than just one, and they will tailor the treatment to suit each individual client. Basically, they'll treat you like a person. No weird boundaries. No blank slate crap. Both of mine use this approach, and when my friend was looking for a therapist a few months ago I recommended she go for integrative as well, which has worked out great for her so far.

"Integrative therapy, or integrative counselling is a combined approach to psychotherapy that brings together different elements of specific therapies. Integrative therapists take the view that there is no single approach that can treat each client in all situations. Each person needs to be considered as a whole and counselling techniques must be tailored to their individual needs and personal circumstances.

Integrative counselling maintains the idea that there are many ways in which human psychology can be explored and understood - no one theory holds the answer. All theories are considered to have value, even if their foundational principles contradict each other - hence the need to integrate them.

The integrative approach also refers to the infusion of a person's personality and needs - integrating the affective, behavioural, cognitive, and physiological systems within one person, as well as addressing social and spiritual aspects. Essentially, integrative counsellors are not only concerned with what works, but why it works - tailoring therapy to their clients and not the client to the therapy."

If you want to read more about it:

Integrative Therapy - Counselling Directory