I'm sorry you are hurting so much right now. unfortunately, it sounds like she has made a firm decision that she feels is best for her. There isn't anything you can do to change that. While I don't know your situation, I can say that I ended a 6 year relationship for what sound like similar reasons. We had grown apart and I just want happy in the relationship anymore-- I still cared about her and the break up was painful, but I knew it wa the right decision. Even when you're the one who ends it, it is still hard to look at old photos and have that person in your life. You just need space and distance. She is clearly feeling a lot of pain, too. Sometimes, it hurts to make healthy decisions. I wish you felt more closure, but sometimes the the other person just doesn't have anyhing more they can say to explain. Sometimes, we have to find out own closure. I've been in that position, too-- where a relationship ends and you don't really understand why. When that happens, you have to take the time to grieve, but you have to eventually accept that it's over and you might never know why. If she was unhappy in the relationship and you don't know why, there was a disconnect somewhere in the communication. That isn't necessarily your fault or hers; just a sign that something wasn't working. All you can do now is move on. Are you interested in going to therapy for yourself? It might help you sort out your feelings and get support.