My take?


Seems the lady doth protest too much.


The one thing you keep repeating is how you want nothing from him, and thus can't understand your resentment toward him.


I may be wrong, but if you've devoted 10years of your life to him, AND describe it as a fight, that looks to me like a woman in love who was hoping this setup would lead somewhere beautiful for both people.


Maybe I'm wrong, or maybe you just don't want to or can't admit it to yourself, because of whatever the implications may be... Idk


But that's what it looks like to me.


I've had a very unorthodox relationship myself so far, but it works for both of us, even if it doesn't look like a cookie cutter relationship when compared to someone else's.


At the end of the day, its about what makes us happy... And I am.


Way I see it, you only have two choices, keep calm and carry on, or jump ship. I doubt any glass will be shattering for him regarding his parents, so he's most likely to stay in his bubble of enmeshment.