Trippin, you maybe partly right. I did expect we would lead somewhere serious, but that was in the beginning years. Now, as I am older, I am bit more skeptic, my head is not in the clouds anymore and I can see that future would not be bright, even if we get to live together. And, over the years, I got used to live alone. I even like it. It was different in first couple of years.
That is what's bothering me: why do I resent him when I really don't see our future together anymore? I am afraid that it's because I am losing respect for him and that's bothering me. I want to respect him. I would like to see him independent, energetic and ambitious. I would like to see him hoping for something, getting somewhere. Problem is, he does not want it. He is happy as he is. That would mean, I am major shrew. But I can't help it. I want to respect him, as I did before, while he had a job, and was still trying to do something with his life.
Divine, no, he does not have anything on the side. Lets just say I am sure. It may be that he is using his parents as an excuse, but there is nothing I can do about it. I guess, truth is in between. I suspect they do not want him to stay with them, they probably want him to move out and have a family of his own, but because they got him so used to them while he was younger, controlled him, and took care of him, giving him no privacy, instead of just telling him to grow up, now he does not want to leave anymore.
That could be another side of the story.