Yes, my T is valid in his concerns, and I share it also, we have been working on it for a few weeks now, but I am slipping and he saw it today....I couldn't put up the no big deal feelings today......He said the same things you did, I know I need to go........I just wasn't expecting him to say today!!!! Then I get home and get all this crap........and now I feel like I have to make it all good here, before I can do anything for me.........