eskie,

u have really expressed yourself beautifully. I agree with much of what u stated. i find it wonderful that u were able to break the cycle. my grandmother was very strongwilled but had those same "old fashioned feeling" about women and their homes and "responsibilities" to their hugoing sbands. i always told her that i would not be a slave to any man! haha. i have not been in the best marriage but we are working on it and i am happy to say that my husband helps with alot of the household chores, hehe.

shygirl,

u definitely have to put this guy in your past! the should'ves could'ves, would'ves r not going to take u anywhere. the fact is u gotta build your confidence and recognize that u were too good for that jerk and ultimately it is his loss. i agree with 50 that u are better off without him. and u should get to know someone alot better before sharing the most intimate thing u have with them. once u have sex that curiousity is gone. i wish u much luck with everything.