Sorry Mona, I don't understand what message. I am not sure my T has any messages she is trying to get across. I think she wants me to create my own messages. Old T just used to tell me straight that things weren't right for me growing up but that it wasn't my fault. She used to tell me I was incredible or stuff like that. I think it helped but I can see they just work in different ways. This might just take a lot longer or might not be so strong. I don't know.