Greeneyes both Christina and Liz gave you awesome advice. Liz has 5 cats so she knows cats.

Marriage and relationships take work and that's what a lot of people do not get. If he is not willing to put in the work and that means holding down a good job and if he is only working part time right now then he should be doing more at home so that you do not have to since you have a full time job. It's give and take

Has for the cat. We have a 14 year old cat. He was about 4 weeks old when we got him. He was my daughters cat. She took him everywhere. All of a sudden she met this guy and she was gone. It took me weeks to get the cat out of the closet. He was depressed and scared kinda like your cat. Slowly he has come around. My hubby and my son found a kitten in the bushes and brought him home. The kitten was really sick but we took him to the vet and got him fixed up. Sunny my daughters cat took care of the kitten. The kitten brought Sunny out of his depression.

I am in no way suggesting you go out and get another cat. We are cat people. But with this new kitten who is my sons cat came some new toys. Now Sunny doesn't like to move to much but we have this toy with treats in it. Sunny will bat that thing all over the front room which is awesome because Sunny is a big cat 17lbs big. Anyway he is getting exercise which is so awesome

Anyway maybe try some new toys for the cat but if you are not happy maybe you should look for a place for just you. It might be the push your boyfriend needs to look for a better job and to get his act together