{{{{{{{{{{{Mary Alice}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I meant to reply to your earlier posting on here too......"How I wish things were that simple Serenity. Anything worthwhile has never been easy to obtain. Take care." You are so right in that it is never easy but it is soooo worthwhile for your peace and happiness as well as your sons.

You have so much on your plate right now but I did want to give you some homework ....get a piece of paper and write down pros and cons.....under each title - write down the pros and cons of staying with or leaving hubby. When you are done hang onto that list and each day add or subtract something. After a couple weeks - look at your list and see if the thoughts and feelings are the same....then you can share with us here or keep it to yourself. The reason I am telling you about this is that it is what I did with my ex hubby.Now if you are like me...it took me 2 and 1/2 years to go over that list over and over in my mind and believe me I waited too long but that is the past. When I read your posts there are so many times I feel like I am reading about myself...I always said to myself that if I ever come across someone in a similar situation as I used to be in, then I would do whatever I can to help them. Mary Alice, I feel that this person is you .

I am not one for encouraging any marriage to break up but I really feel from the bottom of my heart that it is hurting you more than you are admitting to us and especially admitting to yourself.

Try the homework I assigned and share with us if you want to. We are all here for you and care about you so much.

Hugs
Heather

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