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Old Sep 02, 2016, 08:28 PM
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Originally Posted by KitKatKazoo View Post
That is my greatest fear--that now that my therapist realized relatively recently how overly and unhealthily I am attached to her--she will terminate me.

Three weeks ago she confronted me (more details in an earlier post if you're interested), but she didn't terminate me on the spot. In an email and via text, she has encouraged me to return--I've been stalling and noncommital--but I fear that it's only so that she can badger me to reveal what personal information I learned about her during my compulsive searching--and that once she satisfies her curiosity, she'll terminate me. Not seeing her and leaving the situation unsettled is distressing, but the thought of facing her and disclosing the attachment only to then be terminated is even worse. So I remain in this miserable limbo.

It makes me angry that therapy encourages these toxic attachments and compulsive thoughts and behaviors in some of us--and then therapists turn on their clients and terminate them for the very behaviors their so-called treatment provoked!

It's saddening that some of us who sought help instead found harm. For me, it feels like a big open wound that will never heal. I wish I'd never met my therapist and that I could put everything back the way it was before.
That is a terrible bind you are in. Becoming vulnerable and then ending up in a no-win situation like you describe, that is horrible. Hope you can end things in some way that leaves you with a measure of dignity and autonomy. If she did want to terminate you, do you think you'd be able to call her on the hypocrisy and deception?

I was in a no-win situation also. And in fact my therapist said explicitly that I had formed an unhealthy attachment to her. The way she said this was very telling, because it put the blame squarely on me. She should have acknowledged that the dependency was a direct result of her lavishing attention on me, and her emotional entanglement with me, and many other aspects of her behavior and of therapy. If you love bomb people who are love deprived or in a desperate situation or crisis, what in god's name do you think is going to happen?
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KitKatKazoo
Thanks for this!
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