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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
Usually our ts try to get a certain message to us on why something is happening. My t says that things don't happen to me that I do them to myself by wounding myself around what happened or that I am hurting myself or stopping myself from connecting or engaging.
My I wasn't being clear in my post, sometimes things make perfect sense in my head but then when I try communicate these ideas with others they find it hard to understand. Sorry if it wasn't clear, I hope this is clearer.
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I do this - it's clear in my head but I have trouble getting others to understand my train of thought. And I also have the train of thought with the other things , I react to what people say or do from patterns from the past. I was working a bit with CBT / TA skills with EMDR T this week on this , with TA the " child " bit is going off. But I don't feel blaming is very helpful ( and your T does a lot of this ). It's always going to happen that people do this and we're going to react , but learning the skills to recognize and bring the reaction down quicker rather than " you're doing this to yourself ". My T was using examples from his own life too - super helpful rather than being harsh.