Have let my wife know that I wish to separate. Have requested her to allow me a month to sleep over the decision before we break this news to the families and get the process started legally.

She talks to me more openly now about the cheating. She cried and shared that nothing I could have done would have stopped her. She said she never really put a thought on how things are happening in her life and just went ahead with a shallow and easy thought process about things. She says this included marrying me, having the kid , vacations she asked for and the cheating along the way. She never thought responsibly about anything in her life.

She feels when she thinks about it there was nothing about me which caused her to cheat(relief). She cries and feels specially sorry about what she has done for the kid - taking away the father and how she will feel when she grows up and knows about her cheating mother. She feels she can't trust anyone else with the kid and will never marry only for that reason. She plans to move in with her parents and continue with her job. We were thinking about the second kid but of course that is now ruled out.

We have mutually agreed upon how we will split the assets/money/finances for the kid. She feels it is better idea for the kid to be with her now and promises to be very liberal with visitation. Also OK if kid is to be with me.

Life is slipping away. There would be no looking back by end of September.