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Old Sep 03, 2016, 05:15 AM
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So I've been looking for a new therapist to help me process my attachment to my current therapist and hopefully help me detach from her. I've called 6 therapists in total and the majority of them seemed very surprised that I wanted to ask them some questions. Like, they expected me to schedule an appointment immediately, just like that. That's a bad sign, right? Finally I stumbled upon a therapist who lives very close to my appartment, who has a Rogerian approach (very rare in my country) and who's 40. The age is important for me. I want someone much older than me. 40 is too young but I'm willing to give it a go. She sounded nice enough (but how can you ever tell with those things?). The problem is: she has no idea why I'm coming to see her. She probably assumes that I have a specific problem: depression, burn out, grief, something like that. How will she react when she learns that I'm there because of another therapist? Will she take my therapist's side? Will she be willing to listen? The thing also is that I'm not going to be a "pleasant" client: I won't be nice, I will tell her when what she's saying is unhelpful, etc. In my experience (I've seen four therapists, two only for a couple of sessions), therapists expect clients to be compliant and nice. Will she be able to not take it personally? Will she get defensive? I'm just worried about everything and I don't want to try 10 therapists (it's seriously expensive) before finding the right one. It's exhausting. Thank you for reading my long post and any thoughts appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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