I'm having issues with feeling disconnected from my T right now, too. I was never overly connected to her the first couple years I saw her, then at some point a year or so ago, I began to feel really connected and fairly attached to her. She seemed like she felt more connected to me, too, so I trusted her more. But the past few months, she seems to have pulled back, which is making me pull back, too. She did at one point admit that she may have been caring a bit too much and gotten too close (like a maternal countertransference) and realized she had to step back to maintain objectivity. But since I experienced that with her, it's very hard to go back to being less connected. Of course, with the exception of that one thing she said, she acts like there wasn't a change and is putting stuff back on me, which makes it harder, too. I'm thinking of telling her next week that I want to take a break and maybe shop for other T's.

I feel very connected to my marriage counselor--I think partly because he shares so much about himself and also because we all joke around some in session. But he also is accepting of anything I tell him (I'll e-mail him at times) and says that transference and attachment are normal and natural, as is the desire for reassurance, rather than some sign of a weakness in me. He also seems to place a high importance on the client-T relationship and on building/maintaining that, more so than my T. So he makes an effort to maintain the connection and trust, too. (I did have a rupture with him about a year ago, but like BipolarWarrior said, it was more because I was too attached, and that's what made it so painful.)