I think it's because I feel heard and understood in very real ways, but it has taken (and continues to take) a very long time. My therapist does not share much about her personal life to make this happen, it's more about being herself and being present to hear what's going on and sticking around to stay through it all. So, it's not all about what I do, so much as a back and forth and building over time some mutual trust and understanding.