He did say "I very much regret implying minimization" but never straight up said "you were abused" Not sure what I'm going to do. I have grown attached to him in some ways but I don't trust my judgment completely. Part of me wonders if he's just very uncomfortable talking about sex in general. Even when he says the word "lesbian" referring to my extramarital affair a few years ago, he says it in a slightly altered tone, like lowering his voice, as if it's a bad word. He's quite religious, this I do know...

In other ways my therapy with him has been good, and I've attached strongly. Maybe that's why I wanted him more firmly in my corner on the abuse issue, and felt hurt when I felt he wasn't.

I am not sure what you mean about questioning whether the same dynamic of abuse might be involve in the therapeutic relationship. I haven't felt him to be abusive at all.