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Originally Posted by Biba_yu
Ok, I asked him about that. Here is an interesting twist: he is sure they would not approve of me and that would make "unbearable atmosphere in their home".
Apparently, I am not something they had in mind for their son. They actually do want him to have children one day, he doesn't but he won't tell them that (again "atmosphere"). So, dating a woman who is obviously too old to have more children and does not really want to anymore, is out of the question.
So, I have a career, my own home, people respect me, not that it matters but I think I even look good, but what matters is that I am not fertile anymore? What kind of world is this?
Have you ever realized that you spent 10+ years fighting for relationship that never had a chance? I really feel like a world biggest loser.
And you know what is funny? I am terribly shy and introvert so chances of meeting someone new ever are next to zero. i will be alone for the rest of my life.
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so now you know whats going on and why. now you have choices.. you can continue to remain his little secret or you can move on in your life without him...
me being someones dirty little secret on the side because someone doesnt approve of me rather than being treated like a human being is not acceptable. i have more respect for myself then that.
I think of it this way. my wife and I are lesbians. with this comes many people who do not approve. does that mean my wife and I never let others know we were a couple or that we are now married, should we hide ourselves as if we are this abomination \monster... no. from day one when we first started dating we were clear to everyone in our lives that we were a couple and we were not going to hide away like we were criminals\ animals\ not worthy of human being status\ or treated like we did not exist...
those that did not accept us had their choices. they could decide for their self whether they wanted to be part of our lives whole heartedly, with respect without us being kept their little dirty secret on the side like some caged animal no one wants any more. or they can not be part of our lives. their loss. my wife and I continue to live our life out in the open, not hidden away.
I would not treat someone so disrespectful as to expect them to be my little dirty secret on the side. and I refuse to be someone elses dirty little secret.
maybe my attitude from this comes from being a survivor of abuse where I was someones dirty little secret of being on the side for them to abuse in private, maybe my attitude comes from being a lesbian... I dont know but there is no way I would continue with any friendship or relationship where either party was treated so disrespectful as being someones dirty little secret on the side.
if it was me I would not even bother with a big good bye. I would just move on with my life to bigger and better things....but of course only you can decide if you want to continue being this persons secret on the side rather than moving on.