He is lying. What a douche. Either afraid of commitment or has a gf. Or who knows. 10 years and they don't know about you? Please...

I once dated a guy who told me his parents aren't ready for me to meet them which was fine, I thought they needed more time. He then lied that they are apprehensive about me having a child and aren't ready for me to bring my daughter to gatherings. It turned out to be a lie. They were the nicest folks and apparently constantly asked him to bring me over and they were excited I had a daughter so she can play with their grandson (their daughters son). So he lied the whole time. Needless to say I dumped him right away.

Listen you are alone already. So either meet someone nice or stay alone but at least you won't be lied to. And don't worry about wasted time. I lived with alcoholic for almost 9 years and finally had guts to leave. Some people never have courage to leave. So better now then never!