When you and he were first seeing each other, did it seem then like he was meeting your needs? Did something change since then?

Whatever emotional diffuculties you may have related to a psych diagnosis can certainly be greatly exacerbated by being in a non-supportive relationship. At least that's been my experience.

I stopped living with my significant other because my symptoms were getting way worse when I did, ultimately leading to self-harm on my part that has left me with two embarrassing scars. (And I had no history of S.H. before that, or since.) So, though we are still involved with each other, we now live in separate residences.

Sometimes you have to leave to save your sanity. I did. Sometimes I think I should have left the relationship entirely, but I haven't.

I think S.H. can be a way of trying to make the invisible hurt visible.