Thank you, and safe hugs are truly appreciated.

Yes, I am sure she is on her own difficult journey. It is just tough that she is one constant reminder of my mother: one nigh on permanent trigger and cause of emotional flashback.

Couples therapy may be needed in the future. Right now I know I need to stay with the EMDR and see where that journey takes me. Hopefully it will help me to discern what in our relationship is us as opposed to responding to her as though she were my mother, if that makes sense.

- Feeling very trapped right now, trying to sift through all of this. Fortunately she is away this coming weekend, and the next, which will give me a bit of a breather.

Thanks again for replying to my rant...