This sounds so painful and unfair to you but this is who he is. He is showing you everything. BELIEVE it.

He says hurtful things and behaves with such cruelty toward you and yet you say he treats you well.

This is a man who chooses to live across the country away from his own children who need him.

Take care of yourself and love yourself enough to walk away from this person.

https://www.youtube.com/user/SelfLoveU/videos

The most important thing I've recently learned on this forum comes from a wonderful person who encouraged me that we can't keep ourselves in a state of being devalued on a regular basis and expect to be treasured. She actually said, "Take yourself off the discount rack and place yourself with the fine goods." It's the simplest thing but it resonated with me.

Please look within and ask yourself the tough questions. The guy is only showing you who he really is. What draws you to him?

Hugs,
Lele