I could be the poster child for girl with daddy issues. I don't really like that term though. Anyway I was thinking about it and it seems that fantasies are a whole lot safer than when they become a reality. In a fantasy you are the one in control. When it becomes a reality there are other people in the mix and **** gets unpredictable. I also obsess A LOT. I know how annoying it feels. Maybe there is an Ocd component to it. Or maybe it's just the way you're wired. In any case, it might not even matter who and why. Maybe the issue that could be focused on is coping with it and trying to alleviate yourself from the obsessive pattern