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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I can't speak for your therapist but I don't think she would her offended and readier you that you don't need to worry about her feelings. I think that by sharing what is happening for you could really deepen the work.
Does your t ever ask how you are finding your relationship or what is happening between you?
Is she a blank slate t? It's often hard to connect with them and sharing personal things helps bond us but the fact you have asked and your t has not complied suggests she is a blank slate. No wonder you are feeling disconnected because she cuts off the connection.
My t shares a lot of herself on sessions and especially in relation to our relationship and this helps with our connection.
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Yes, my T is a blank slate which is why I have this problem in the first place. I asked her to tell me a little bit about herself and she asked me to GUESS what I thought that she'd be into! I made a couple of guesses and then pushed back asking her to tell me and all that I got was she preferred baking (I had guessed that she liked cooking" and that she likes spending time outdoors. That's all that I she wants me to know.
I was so frustrated and ended up extensively googling her and found out a ton of info. Later I felt guilty and told her about my googling and about a couple of general things that I found. Luckily, I withheld a LOT fo what I had found. She was mad and while we have made amends for the most part, I still struggle with the fact that she won't tell me anything but on the other hand it's so frustrating that I know a lot but can't mention it!
There is always an underlying struggle like when I asked her where she was going on vacation and all that she gave me was the name of the state and then kind of stared at me. It makes me feel like I shouldn't ever ask any questions because I feel so rejected when she won't answer them.
I really wish that I knew the future and how this was all going to shake out.