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This is extremely accurate for me as well. Obsessions (not only with people, anything) most often serve as seeming escape routes for me to distract myself from what truly needs to be dealt with and done in the moment.
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That's true for me actually. I obsess over other stuff too (a song, a story, a film, an event, a certain "style") and always have but these obsessions (unlike my obsessing over people) are extremely short lived and can be for a matter of hours days or weeks and then I move on. For me it serves as a distraction and escape from reality, like Xynesthesia says.
Do you find you obsess over anything else rainbow8?
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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
It is not even unconscious anymore -- why it can be so disturbing due to the cognitive dissonance created.
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I don't mean to go off on a tangent off topic from the thread but I'd be interested to know what you mean by cognitive dissonance Xynesthesia and it not being unconscious anymore.
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I had hopes when I first entered therapy that it would help with this issue but so far it has not or only in very subtle, transient ways.
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I haven't found therapy has helped me with obsessing either. If anything, it has only worsened it now I've been terminated. The only time I felt like it was actually lessening was when I felt a more secure attachment to T which had the benefit of making me feel less insecure about my life outside of therapy. That would seem to suggest the obsessing is a sign of insecurity. Perhaps that's another possible reason for obsessing? A feeling of insecurity within yourself and attachments with others??? Just thinking out loud here lol.