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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
My mother loved/loves me, yet in my twenties I got very attached to several older women about her age - because they were more maternal than she was. I outgrew it, but you can know someone loved you and still want more.
The preemie thing...it's something like babies not being touched or physically loved in their first weeks hinders their attachment abilities? It could be that, mixed in with other factors unique to you.
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I guess so. I didn't confide in my mother so there was some sort of problem. It just seems like I want unconditional love because I DID get it, and miss it now. But I obsessed about people when my Mom was still alive too. My gut feeling is I was crying in the incubator and no one came or held me because this was before they knew about holding preemies.
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Originally Posted by annielovesbacon
I wonder the same thing. I was pretty attached to my T (thought I worked very hard not to let it get out of control) but my whole life, even as a little girl, I always got attached to older women, usually teachers. I saw them as mother figures.
My mom was always there, and she does love me, but she is not super emotional/touchy-feely/expressive. Neither am I, though. I don't know why I so longed for the motherly love of teachers I've had.
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Isn't it strange? It seems like for some of us, even though we had our mother's love, we still wanted more!