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Originally Posted by SoConfused623
I was so attached to my therapist and used to think about her 24/7 always wondering if she liked the same things that I did or wondering what she'd think about certain things that I said or did out of session. Now I'm feeling so disconnected that I too don't think that I would be devastated if I stopped seeing her. I more want to stay with her because she knows me so well and we've spent 2 years together and I just don't want to start over with someone new. So basically, I'm not sure if I should cut my losses or try to persevere and some how accept this way of hers. Again, I wish that she'd just meet me 10% of the way, that would make me very happy!
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I know a few things about my therapist, she shares opinions about things and sometimes things about her own personal life, like about her kids or her interests - we've talked about TV shows, for example. All comes out naturally, though.
But I understand attachment and obsession. I've felt that way about my uni therapist. I still do, don't think I'll ever get over it. I think about her all the time, it's quite sad, and I was heartbroken in our last session. Then again, she had met me at like, 150% (too much at times), so that was sort of inevitable.
I don't think you should have to accept anything you don't like from a therapist. Starting over with someone new might not be such a bad thing; you could move on to someone with a completely different approach, completely different personality, and who knows, maybe you'll click with them straight away and it'll be amazing! (Or maybe you'll connect with them in the very first session and it'll scare the everliving crap out of you.
) Your current therapist may know you, but do you feel like she truly
understands you?