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Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster
People can be extremely frustrating. Nobody likes to be labeled with something that is equated with "evil" especially when the label doesn't even apply in the first place.
It sounds like your mother has used your father just to have a slave in many respects. She succeeded from how your father talks about her.
Psychopaths have that air of contempt about just about anyone they feel like directing it towards that day. They'll insult you, make fun of you, psychologically rip you to pieces over and over again and then ask something like, "oh you seem so upset, was it something I said?"
How would I know? Well, I think anyone on here who's been reading my posts for any length of time knows the answer to that question lol.
I've also been subject to a lot of projection from people who have mother issues. That's been a very consistent pattern in my life. Someone recently got extremely angry at me because I reminded her of her mother and I said in a monotone, "that's because for all intents and purposes, I am your mother." Needless to say, that did not go over well. Though it was highly entertaining for me.
Nobody who's ever treated me professionally thinks I'm at all borderline. But I do know how to fake the disorder, I learned that one as a teenager. It's had its uses.
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Yes I learned borderline from my mother, narcissism from my father, and sociopathy from my ex, I could fake anyone of those, although sociopathy would be hard for me.
I have to really watch how I interact in groups both online and in real life. The only groups I don't have a problem with is recovery groups. And to be honest, it actually says in this book, psychopath free, that when you first start recovering from psychopathic abuse you should only talk to your therapist and people in recovery communities. It talks about this phenomenon of vultures, people who prey on your pain.
I talked with my t on Saturday about how to handle people whose minds work slower then your own. That's got to be the bane of my existence. I did DBT to help me with that, and I still get frustrated. My t was like just listen to what they have to say. And I'm thinking to myself, I don't want to listen, because they think they know something and they don't. I decided I can only be around people who do know something I don't, because otherwise I will get incredibly frustrated. I only have an AA in CDEV so I don't have an advanced degree to ... validate my intellect in the eyes of those who will not listen unless you have that.
I was thinking about what it would be like to be a professor, I'm sure you'd get frustrated with your students.
Then I was thinking about what it would be like to be in research, because after all that's where an academic career lands you, I'm sure that would be frustrating too.