You're right about this. With so much advice, each claiming to be the ultimate one, it can be confusing. So I do my own thing. My own thing may not be the right or correct thing, and if it turns out that I was wrong...well I was wrong that's all.
For instance, take this man for example. Past Monday I called him. Now some "experts" or people in general might say that's not good. Really? And why not? Because of what the "experts" say? Or what you say or feel about calling a man?
Well it just so happens that he had company, his daughter with her children. But what did he do? He talked with me anyway, as opposed to telling me he can't talk because he has company. The conversation wasnt drawn out. He asked me a question about my religious life, and we talked about it. I was impressed. (Oopss! I forgot to mention he said his mother was there too). We talked just a few minutes more but by then I'm becoming really conscious of his time, so it was I who cut the conversation short. But the point is he made time for me!
I cannot and will not go by these "experts" unless what they have to say is good and will be good for me. And oh yeah, at the end he actually thanked me for calling him.