We should never blame ourselves for our depression - it is either chemical or it was induced by childhood traumas none of us could control (or both, in many cases). Yes, we all do blame ourselves - say "Im sorry" when it had nothing to do with us doing anything wrong - accept all the guilt - but we are not guilty - we are victims. I have learned so much from my T about why I feel the way I do - the t raumas that set me up and have ruled my life - and now he is teaching me how to be strong - how to be who I really am inside - a competent, intelligent, and capable person who can succeed if I allow myself to. Please, stop all the blaming and start the healing. There is a song: "May I be free from suffering - May I be whole - May I be healed - May I be at peace". That is what we are after (at least that is what I am after). I want to be at peace.