I feel truly sorry for you. My mom was manipulative like that too. Unsure if she was BP since she was never diagnosed. Just know she either adored me or hated me. It is so terribly wrong to put a guilt trip on you, ie blaming you for her aches. You need to do what is needed to protect yourself and get help for your mom. I can't condemn her if its her mental illness making her do the things she does. I'm not exonerating her. Nor am I in any way blaming you. What I am saying is MI can make people do things