Your husband at least owes you an apology! Sorry you went through this. One thing is for certain sometimes men don't think about women's feelings. Not all men but some. They get so wrapped up in what they are doing they don't stop to think how it will affect the woman. Of course this is no excuse. And since you coming home late two years ago upset him so then he should be able to understand how upsetting this is for you that he did not consider your feeling before he acted.