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Originally Posted by Skies
That is so disturbing QuietMind. Why are people so victim blaming? You're right about the burglary analogy; so true.
I'm wondering if this goes back to when crimes against women were acceptable, and it just hasn't run its course yet. 25 percent of women are victims of incest to this day; with so many of us, how can there be blaming?
A past therapist was like that with me when I disclosed rape to her. The first words out of her mouth were, "why didn't you xxxx". I left that one and never looked back.
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I'm so glad you left that therapist and so sorry she victim blamed.
Sadly with that first T of mine blaming me for being sexually harassed at work, I never ever disclosed traumatic incidents of molest. Because i sensed he would say I bore responsibility too...as the work issue was way milder.
I just really don't like how Mona's T is phrasing things. Sorry Mona.
While we do have choices, abusers and perpetrators also DO. They CHOOSE to harm and take advantage of vulnerability. It is not some foregone conclusion that X leads to Y. In abusive relationships, people are frequently shamed for "choosing to stay" and thus "allowing abuse to continue"...when each time it is the abuser who CHOOSES to continue abuse.