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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
When a woman complains, men try to fix the problem or get the woman to settle down. When she doesn't, they get frustrated and even feel like they're not doing their "job." And they get offended that the woman is not following their helpful responses.
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So true. I used to get frustrated when I tried to fix my girlfriend's problems, and that wasn't what she needed at all. I didn't get angry with her. I just didn't understand why she wouldn't listen to my glorious advice. HA HA HA HA
Anyway, you need to vent and it will probably happen on a regular basis. It happens to be pretty normal. Just the way women process things. Your bf should therefore get with the program and give you what you need during those times... things like listening, understanding, inquiring and supporting in any way that you need.
Should he not do that, you will become frustrated with him because he won't be meeting your emotional needs, and if you're lucky, the relationship will end sooner than later. I hate to sound harsh, but that's pretty much it.
So you didn't do anything wrong. He just needs to understand that women are not like men and vice-versa, and the rules he follows for helping his buds in crisis (omg my ps3 is broken, :P) don't apply to women. He has to learn that or face a life of miserable relationships with women.
BTW, I'm sad to say that I learned this lesson after 43 years and one failed marriage.