My mom is also like this, there are certain things that are totally fine in other households but not okay at ours. Like how she's always hated when I lock my bedroom door. She will knock and wait for a response when she's in a good mood, but if she's upset she just barges into my room. There were times when we'd fought and I'd lock my door, and she'd knock furiously on my door. Sometime I get scared of her and want to lock my door when I sleep but I'm afraid she'll get even madder so I never do