My therapist told me that if you love someone and you worry first about them loving you back, that is a different way to love someone and it is called symbiotic love.

But if you love someone and can let them go if you have to and not be worried about yourself, that means you actually love the person and not just love them because of what they do for you.

If a newborn baby never is allowed to have symbiotic love, maybe as adults it is difficult for them to learn the self less kind?

I also meant to ask, how do you know when you've let a person go?