I think the problem mostly lies in the therapists you have access to, and the type of treatments they are allowed to offer.
Personally, I am fairly confident my t cares about me beyond the paycheck (or lack thereof thanks to the small amount insurance approves her to charge). She's proven over time that she's willing to change up the way she works with me to fit what I need in the moment. While I balk at the thought of "reparenting", I do know my t works from an attachment perspective. She's also open to being supportive outside of the paid hour. It's definitely helped build up trust and held teach me to balance myself. She also does maintain her own boundaries though, and keels them consistent...

I can relate to the "children are seen, not heard" concept. It's such a relief once you finally feel heard.