I have put up with people using tears as a weapon and a tool so many times - people who have learned to turn it on and off like a smooth tap - when there is nothing wrong other than they want their way. I don't cry any more - not in public or in private - sober or drunk. Have been told off many times over the years for being a cry baby and attention seeking even when grieving for close relatives, friends and pets, that I just stopped. Don't show emotions at all any more - not sadness, grief, anger. Just a steely face - and in recent years have been told I am 'heartless', cold, etc particularly by those who show emotion at the drop of a hat, seeking attention. I have lost so many friends and family relationships because of my "coldness and heartlessness" - the very same people who have told me I am disallowed from showing emotion. Go figure.