Hello xany: Honestly, the Skeezyks doesn't know about this. I'm an old married guy who despises himself. So go figure... Quite a few years ago now, I participated in a partial hospital program where they told us: "Don't should on yourself." Don't place expectations on yourself & then beat yourself up for not achieving them.

From my perspective, the idea of only being able to find a good partner if you love yourself deeply is one of those platitudes that the world would probably be a lot better of without. All it does is to set up unsubstantiated & mostly unattainable expectations that people then end up beating themselves up over because they can't possibly live up to them.

I don't know why it is you have not been able to establish a good relationship. It does seem as though this is something that has become more difficult since I was young. Back in the day, as they say, I don't think we really ever thought all that much about it. Relationships just sort-of happened. However, under any circumstances, my personal opinion would be, whatever the cause, it's not because you don't love yourself deeply. I wish you well...