If I were to be 100% candid with my therapist these are some thoughts I would share with her:

I feel completely disconnected from you. Can we recover from this or is it time to move on?

I need you to stop smiling and agreeing to make small changes that you have no intention on making just to appease me.

Please follow up on the big things in my life and ask how they are going.

Please say something nice from time to time.

Please just be human when I ask a question and not give me a one word curt answer

You say that you are not a blank slate but that's BS. The only reason you are not a blank slate is because of my Googling skills!!!!!!! You have NEVER volunteered any information to me.

Please share a personal anecdote with me from time to time because I'm sure that it would help with our connection.

You sure put on a good front and I think that everyone thinks that you are sweet and nice, but I think that you have been passive aggressive because you're mad that I looked you up. You deny this, but it's true.

Stop being so complacent and realize that each client has different needs and your cookie cutter approach does not work for me.

Please do not repeat my swear words or slang back to me. I know that you're trying to make me feel comfortable but it comes across as mocking me.

I am now horrified about some of the things that I've shared because I feel like you don't deserve to know.

On a positive note:

Thank you so much for helping me through the crisis when we first met 2 years ago.

Thank you also for never being judgemental and always trying to normalize my issues.

Thank you for not reacting or for reacting appropriately when I made that huge disclosure.

I know that you're a good T, but we have lost our connection and I really hope that we can get it back because I do not want to start over with someone new!