There are also times when you don't get much of a choice about it, times when you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. Times when you just want to scream "I never asked for any of this!!!" and wish all of it would disappear. There are times when you have an ethical responsibility to find out the answers even though you know it is gonna tear you and your whole world apart, because to do nothing is to be worse.
You are
damned if you do and you are
damned if you don't
and you never asked for any of it
but you have to decide?????? You have to make a choice? And both are too overwhelming and too painful and you would much rather just lie down and create another one to take over everything so you don't have to deal with any of it????

That's how much fun putting those puzzle pieces together is, and that's how 'choice' about it goes.