Since virginity is such a common issue on these message boards, I think PsychCentral should create a virginity board where people who are virgins and people who want to talk about virginity can get together to discuss virginity and sex.

In the meantime, I suggest you stop talking about such intimate matters with men you don't really know, until you find out what their psychological issues are. Some of these people you are meeting over the internet could be dangerous. Further more, a lot (I emphasize, many, many...a lot) of guys say they have "intimacy issues, commitment issues, trust issues, etc." when what they often mean is they don't want to get married or be in a committed relationship, but they'll take any sex you'll toss their way--oh, and they don't want the woman to have sex with other men (unless that is their thing) but they reserve the right to do it with anyone who comes along. Another thing men (and women--just about anything men do, women do--not trying to be sexist) do is claim their ex was cheating. Sometimes they claim their ex was (or became) homosexual--gay or lesbian. The truth might be closer to the person just lost interest in them and looked farther afield. I'd ditch the damaged internet guy and find a nice wholesome employed man in your own community whose background you can learn through a series of casual dates in public without a lot of sex talk. I hope this helps.