Hi, I use a lot of black and white thinking. I used head space for a bit. I couldn't concentrate enough, my mind races too much. They charge too much for extra sessions. I get that she wants you to feel better yourself, instead of her making you feel better, I always use this theory in session, is where the t, is like a GPS and ur the driver, a guider, if u get lost, or take a wrong turn, GPS will give u correct coordinates to get on Trac again. I don't know what a secure attachment would look like, I do know I'm not overly attached, I don't call her, can't email, but I still get that anxious feeling in the waiting room. Sorry ur in a ball of confusion. Hugs.