Rose I have no magic words, I have worked medical all my life, some sweet lil ladies and men and some pretty mean ones too due to dementia, my heart goes out to you. You have done more than most people would be willing to do.

I also agree you need to find out what help you can find for You!

Yes many people that are home health workers are paid lousy and many just don't care which I can never figure out why the hell do this type of work if your heart isn't in it!

The one you have now seems willing to learn, I'd make out some cards to just jolt her memory about what to us seems simple .. Are you able to just go every other day?

As for his anger there are times when it's dementia related and probably more times that he's angry about his situation and instead of working with someone to help himself he's just making matters worse and he could easily wind up in a home.

It's hard to see a loved one deteriorate and not much you can do .

Please do take care of you, even if that means taking a vacation from seeing him daily, kinda like the oxygen mask on a plane put yours on first so you can help others

((( hugs))