Mine was not just often clueless but TOTALLY clueless. He turned out to be psycho therapist who is now my worst nightmare. He made up stories about me that were untrue. He stalked me (but that didn't help him either). He destroyed every significant relationship in my personal life. A few are hanging on by a thread and will never be what they were. My confidence meant absolutely NOTHING to him. He treated me like an idiot. I was a fool to believe in him. Every word out of his mouth is a lie. My feelings meant nothing to him. I was not even treated humanely. He would have treated a dog better. He has destroyed me.